Coping With Negative Situations
In life, often times, especially in this day and age, there are certainly many so-called negative situations, conflicts, and just things in general that are bound to strike us unexpectedly, or suddenly. Some just happen as a part of life at any time. It could be a simple accident like shutting a car door on your hand or finger, getting stuck on a long line at a store or waiting to get on your favorite ride at your favorite amusement park, spilling your milk, as they say, misplacing your cell phone, or actually getting hurt or coming home one day and either your house is on fire, or your apartment has been robbed and ransacked. For those with disabilities, for example, or those whose appearance is different, or their personality, such harmful reactions of stigma, discrimination, hatred, or criticisms and judgments can and often do happen, to everybody, at some point. You may also lose your job, your driver’s license, or all of your money, for example. The list is infinite.
We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.
Whenever something negative happens to us, or even a loved one, it can become like second nature for anybody to fall into, “Why is this happening? My day had been going so well, and now this!” We might fight it, blaming others, and even blaming ourselves. “This is unfair. Why me? I am so stupid,” or “I was right. They’re wrong,” and again, “this is so unfair!” Anger can easily rise up inside us as we lash out and complain instead of fixing the problem, or thinking more positively about it, and taking action—sometimes not taking action, we might give up, or we might even drop down into a depression.
As long as we’re all here in this world, there’s always some kind of chaos, good and bad—the ups and downs in life, both the positive things and the negative.
The point is none of us are alone when bad things—or good things—happen. Our thoughts and attitude can often change everything and anything. Frustration, feeling negative things, thinking negative thoughts, and behaving or reacting as such doesn’t really help anything or anyone, nor is it likely to resolve the situation at hand. It usually won’t get the job you want done the way you want it to be.
But, we all have free will. We all have choices, and we can certainly make choices. We can even just pick up the phone and call a friend. We can ask for help, or we can vent to a friend or loved one, if you and your fiend or loved one is OK with that. The more objectively we see any negativity. It no longer becomes negative or bad.
Obstacles, once we overcome them, end up making us feel much better. There’s always opportunity in negativity, and again, we are in charge of making choices, healthy choices, as best as we can. We can learn a lesson, and be OK with learning lessons. In other words we can look more into what we can do, with our strengths and with the power of goodness in us. We can and do get through tough times, more than we might even notice, don’t we? We all made it this far, haven’t we?
We all cope with negative situations in our own ways, and in whatever way that suits us, and works for us best, as individuals.